What Is High-Risk Sexual Behavior? Understanding the Risks and the Path Forward

David had always felt different. Diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder as a child, he struggled with social interactions and understanding unspoken rules. Now in his early twenties, he spent most of his time online—gaming, chatting, and making friends in virtual spaces.

Recently, David had begun messaging younger teens in online forums. He enjoyed their conversations, finding them easier to talk to than people his own age. The messages were friendly, sometimes playful, and he even exchanged photos—nothing inappropriate, he insisted.

But when asked if he felt attracted to minors, he hesitated. Eventually, he admitted, “Yes.”

David wasn’t sure if he had done anything wrong, but deep down, he knew something felt off. A growing sense of anxiety filled him. What if someone misunderstood his intentions? What if his actions had consequences he hadn’t thought through?

This is what high-risk sexual behavior looks like—situations where poor boundaries, impulsivity, or unmet emotional needs lead to serious consequences. And for David, understanding those risks was the first step toward change.

What is High Risk Sexual Behavior?

High-risk sexual behavior includes actions that increase the likelihood of emotional distress, social consequences, or legal trouble. Some common examples include:

• Online interactions with minors
• Engaging in chats, exchanging photos, or forming inappropriate connections.
• Failure to recognize social and legal boundaries
• Misunderstanding what is appropriate or lawful.
• Secretive or compulsive behavior
• Feeling compelled to engage in risky interactions, even when aware of the potential dangers.

For individuals on the autism spectrum, navigating these boundaries can be even more challenging. Social difficulties, rigid thinking, and trouble recognizing unspoken rules can lead to risky choices—sometimes without full awareness of their consequences.

Why Did David's Behavior Escalate?

David wasn’t a bad person. He wasn’t trying to harm anyone. But his actions put him in a dangerous situation. Like many people with autism, he found it easier to connect with younger individuals—there was less pressure, fewer complex social cues to decode.

He also struggled with loneliness. He wanted connection, but making friends his own age felt impossible. When he started talking to younger teens, it felt comfortable. Safe.

But it wasn’t safe. It was a high-risk pattern of behavior, and without intervention, things could get worse.

Understanding the Risks

David’s situation carried serious legal risks—laws around online communication with minors are strict, and even messages that seem harmless can be misinterpreted. Beyond legal issues, there were emotional and social risks as well. If discovered, his actions could lead to social ostracism, damaged relationships, and long-term consequences for his future.

And then there was the personal risk—if he continued down this path, his behaviors might escalate. Many people in his situation start by convincing themselves that they aren’t doing anything wrong—until one day, they cross a line they never intended to.

A New Path Forward

When David finally opened up about his feelings and behaviors, he was scared. But he also wanted help.

He didn’t want to end up in a worse situation. With guidance from OnwardWell's problematic sexual behavior coaching program, he took his first steps toward change:

1. Understanding Social and Legal Boundaries – He worked with a professional to learn what behaviors were acceptable and where he had been making mistakes.

2. Addressing His Attraction – He faced his feelings honestly, without shame, and learned how to manage them in a safe, responsible way.

3. Developing Healthy Coping Strategies – Instead of seeking connection with minors, he explored ways to build relationships with peers and adults.

4. Creating a Support System – He found people who could hold him accountable and support his growth without judgment.

Final Thoughts: A Wake-Up Call Before It’s Too Late

David didn’t mean to put himself in danger. He wasn’t a criminal, but he was engaging in high-risk sexual behavior. If he hadn’t addressed it, his future could have taken a devastating turn.

If you or someone you know is struggling with similar challenges, don’t wait for things to spiral out of control. There is help. There are paths forward that don’t lead to isolation, fear, or legal trouble.

If this story resonates with you, know that change is possible. And it starts with a single step. Reach out...